I especially love her manifesto
What would bring me to embrace this woman? I can tell you! Judgement!! I have had more than my share of judgement waged against me throughout my thirteen years of motherhood ... and I'm sure I've slung more judgement than I was qualified to sling. What can I say? I'm a jerk!
In more recent history, I've had people judge me because they think I'm a "perfect" mother. Of course I am! However, this title is a bit overwhelming - leads me to want to shake those who profess my perfection and show them exactly what a crappy Mom I can be ... but then my rational side takes over to remind me how ludicrous that is.
I think what bothers me most is the dismissiveness which is associated with comments on my perfection - as if I couldn't possibly understand how mere mortals take on their load of mothering. There is this impression that I'm half divine & mostly resistant to hurtful comments.
I can assure anyone reading this - my imperfection runs deep (not that I care to admit that) and that each day I swim against the current to become a good mother.
I've learned something in my years of mothering, children come the way they are. We, as parents, have choices about whether we encourage or discourage traits our children possess. Early on, I chose to encourage those traits which were most rewarding. I chose to look at the good that particular child bestows and then praise the loving crap out of it. Why not?!!!
Being a Southerner, I was raised with a phrase, "Don't think too high of yourself!" I reject this mentality! I believe we should think as "high" of ourselves as we can! There are enough voices in my head telling me how I don't measure up. I desperately need one loud, booming voice that screams, "You are the most freaking awesome person in the room! IN THE ROOM!!!"
Friends, I love ya! Come to perfect Mommy Glenda to hear how great you are because I see it! You're the freaking best, most awesome, lovely, glamorous (wait - no. that's me) well ... GREATEST person in the room!! You better believe it!
1 comment:
Amen girl! Whenever I hear parents saying negative things to/about their kids I want to just hug their kids and tell them how perfect they are! There is so much negativity in the world; the one place they should feel confident and awesome is at home!
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