I struggle. Is this news to anyone? Really? Is it? Is there anyone out there who doesn't struggle?
Ok, so we all struggle. I have a big problem. I have to talk through my struggles. I need to hear as many different view points as I possibly can to 1) understand how others would handle my struggles and 2) express what I'm going through by looking at it from every angle. Some would say I overanalyze (which may be true).
What happens when I talk through my struggles? I forget who I talk to about said struggle. This may not sound so bad, but when I open up my innermost feelings to someone because it feels right at the time, they aide me in one way or another (or not), and then I go on my merry way - most likely to talk about same said struggle again with yet another person.
You may have figured out now - this leads people to gossip.
I know this. I do. I just forget.
When I'm having a hard time and need to figure something out, I forget how interesting whatever it is may be to somebody else. To me, the current topic is the bain of my existance --- Why would anyone else want to talk about that?! Oh yeah, because they're human!
So here is a request from a naive soul who cringes at her own poor decision making: When a person (like me) bears her soul to you, seeking advice - give it and forget it. Leave the topic alone or better yet - after the conversation, say a little prayer for her and hope God was speaking through you to help her out a little.
Thanks!
3 comments:
"My name is Sarah and I struggle."
"Hi, Sarah!"
I heard gossip described once as if you had broken off a piece of a chocolate bar and gave it to someone. The longer they hold on to it the more gooey it gets and, before long, something that seemed an innocent, luxurious treat at the beginning has turned into a sticky, destructive mess.
Take it or leave it but, personally, I wouldn't trust anyone who voluntarily gives up their chocolate. It isn't normal.
I've lost a dear friendship from this same thing.
I treasure our rants we have.
xoxo
WOW! this something I would totally think and say. I have that struggle too dont u worry your not the only one...I can figure people out pretty fast so I try not to say to much...You cant have to much trust in people anymore...or when you really trust someone they go and do something behind your back...you always have to be on guard to protect yourself. Lots of people loose friendships becasue of this but this is how I look at it...If that person was that dumb, stupid and immature for doing whatever they did..they were not worth having as a friend anyways...
Sorry I vented alittle on that one too...sorry I can relate to that one I guess ARGGG!!! ha ha ha
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